Relationships in High School (uhhh I think I went way off topic)

August 28, 2012 at 2:14 am (Uncategorized)

Oh Lord, I feel like this topic has been discussed to death. I mean, if we turn on the TV at any point in time and go to Nick, Disney, ABC Family and you know all your children-friendly stations (which admittedly are becoming less innocence-friendly but that’s a different post), there will be at least 1 episdoe where the female protagonist or the female lead, is wronged by a guy. And so begins this cycle of ENTITLEMENT

let’s all be honest, we cannot go through life without getting a jab directly to the heart, guy or girl. If you somehow manage to avoid that, you have never been in love. People are reckless, self-involved or truly believe they are doing you a favour. Either way, they are misguided. I believe the problem arises when we hold that chip onto our shoulder

Unfortunately, it is usually the girl who ends up getting screwed over. In traditional gender roles, a girl is the one who falls head over heels in puppy love, while for the guy it was an experiment. But the world is changing my friends. More and more girls are  the ones doing the wrong, and are still treated as the innocents.

But I digress. If you are a boy or a girl, transexual or a hermaphodite, if you were in a relationship and the person did you wrong, you pick yourself and keep on moving. But I promise this to you faithfully, if you hold onto that seed of bitterness, it will consume you. And this isn’t some melodramatic, poetic rubbish – I am being quite serious. Any negative emotion you harbour in your soul whether intentional or accidental, will fester and fluorish one day. And it doesn’t even have to happen in some dramatic LMN movie meltdown level kind of thing. You can be 25, when the youthful days are now just fond memories, and you realize, without the distractions of unbridled freedom and lack of inhibition, you can’t open yourself. And hey, it isn’t abnormal. It is a basic animal instinct to protect ourselves against future pain. When you walk in the hot sun too long on gravel, your heel becomes cracked and hardened. You toughen yourself against immediate and future threats.

But you deserve better. That is the simple truth. You may have been a “pathetic” individual, “unworthy” of love. IF you want to be so hard on yourself, so be it. Hey, I am hardly one to talk. It is a commonly held belief that one of the most remarkable human abilities is the ease at which we as a species adapt to change. And we all know, it is the only constant in life. So as the days go bye, don’t think of them as one concurrent event : treat each day differnetly.

Each day is an opportunity to better yourself as a person. I don’t know how to show you how sincerely I believe this and know this to be true : You can change. And you can learn to love again. But don’t jump foolhardedly into the next stranger with that “magnetic” persona. But hey if you’re impulsive, learn to be quick to learn.

Naivete and innocence has become a luxury one simply cannot avoid in the world. It seems that as globalization swept the world, and the walls between nations tumbled down, the safe havens we constructed as by-products of isolation from one another are being broken down. And no-one knows how to cope. But hey, how can you as yet cope with a force you know nothing about?